I think everyone is very aware of the world’s addiction to technology.  Actually, I’d say above all technology, the world is practically glued to their cell phones, myself included.  I’ve made a conscious effort, but when I’m trying to promote a business, an article, or something in that category, I generally use the internet.  I have easy access to my phone and my phone has internet.  I find a little justification, and lo and behold, I’ve started getting on my cell phone again about 30 times a day.My two main reason I grab my phone too often is for distraction and affirmation.

Distraction:
When I have a lot going on such as cleaning, writing, school pickups, grocery lists, phone calls, etc. I tend to reach for my phone more.  I check email, or scroll Facebook, check out Instagram, read articles online about topics I love.  They tend to be a major distraction, because I’m literally avoiding the work in front of me.

The housework can be overwhelming and when I’m not using my timer system, I hardly get the work completed because I find myself on my phone for one reason or another.  The other day I knocked off 10 huge chores and 10 smaller ones off of my list.  I set the timer and was off.  On one of my 30 minute timer session I decided to get on my phone and see how 30 minutes on the phone feels like.  It was so short, which made me believe my “time” on the phone is much longer than I think and I’m wasting valuable time.  That time isn’t just from my day, it’s from my life.  I’m wasting moments with my kids.  I’m wasting moments resting.  I’m wasting moments treating myself well.

Affirmation:
This is a thing I wish I could avoid entirely.  It makes me feel very vain.  If I post a picture of my kids on Facebook, I’ve done so for my family and friends who we don’t get to see too often.  That being said, I apparently want to be sure people are liking it because I need the affirmation my children are cute, or funny, or whatever.  I would make myself believe it was for the conversation with other commenters, but it isn’t.  Just plain vanity.

The same goes for this blog page.  I have a goal for followers and another goal for the amount of views per month, so I’m constantly checking numbers.  Something tells my brain to look and then look some more because the more I look the faster the number grow?  Hmmm… Just check it at the end of the day.

 

So I’m going on a cell phone diet.  I’m setting clear and specific times when I can pick up my phone and look.

  • I will not look at anything but the time on my phone upon waking up.
  • I will put my phone away from my daily activities.
  • If I want to look something up and I’m at the comfort of my home, I’ll use our computer.
  • When I arrive to a friend’s home, a family member’s home, or anywhere I’m surrounded by the company of others I will keep my phone my bag, in the car, or somewhere else out of sight.
  • I will set specific times of day to check my phone for messages, phone calls, emails, etc.

 

What happens to our brains when we’re constantly jumping from image to image, story to story, stopping what we’re doing to check something out?  Sometimes it probably looks as though I’m just checking to see if my phone is there.

As a stay at home mom who lives away from family, I used to tell myself it was okay to check every so often.  I don’t have people to have heightened conversations with like those who work outside the home.  I used to say checking Facebook was my way of staying in touch with the home we left behind in Missouri.  That justification didn’t leave me until I was able to realize more than 75% of the people I was seeing weren’t people I’d be asking and nosing into their business/ home life anyway.   I was secure enough in saying the “friends” I had on Facebook were people I would say “Hello!” to if I would bump into them somewhere, so my “friends” list isn’t very high to begin with.

How many friends can you really have anyway?  How many friends can you genuinely know so intimately?

So I’m unplugging.  We’ve been unplugging more and more here at the Wehde household anyway! Beginning long ago with any form of tablets, and now cutting back exponentially on everyone’s T.V. time.  Thankfully my children won’t be getting phones for LONG time, but I want to be the example for when they do.

What are some more tips for unplugging?

Anyone have any luck with the Apps specifically designed to help you stop your cell phone addiction?  I’m looking into “Breakfree” and “Offtime”.

 

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